You're trying to find a song for your first dance and are unsure how to approach it! Here's help from New York based artist Oorbee Roy who culled experiences from real-life couples and the experts on how to approach your moment in the spotlight for an unforgettable experience.

One of the truly memorable and equally agonizing moments of a wedding, the first dance is really a private moment for the couple to enjoy their wedding bliss. The song should not only evoke strong emotions in both the bride and groom but should also adequately convey to the guests the unique bond between the happy couple.

DJ Masti, a New York/New Jersey/Texas based professional has often had the honor of presenting a newlywed couple for their first dance. He says: "The first dance symbolizes the beginning of a new life together. The guests perceive the dance as very touching and the couple are excited to know the song's meaning." According to DJ Masti some of the more popular requests for the first dance is: "Lady in Red" by Chris deBurgh, "Always and Forever" by Luther Vandross and "Jab Koi Baat Bigad Jaaye" from the movie Jurm.

If you're apprehensive about being in the limelight, practice dancing or take dance lessons to ease your woes. Don't worry too much, the nervousness surrounding the first dance will wash away once you and your new spouse take to the dance floor. As the song symbolizing your love fills the room, you will find that you are a confident and joyful couple, welcoming the start of your new life together.

Here are some stories from real-life couples who have been gracious enough to share their experiences. You will be surprised at how the emotional excitement of the first dance transitions to a calming moment of mutual affection:

Couple: Anita Ghatak & Shomik Roy
Date of Wedding: 14th July, 2001
Location: Hilton, Allentown, PA
First Dance Song: "Soul Sanctuary", Prince

As a longtime fan of Prince, the singer whose romantic ballads puts him decades ahead of his time, "Soul Sanctuary" was an obvious choice for the groom. After six years of dating, the lyrics were a perfect representation of how Shomik felt for his new wife, "Loving you in silence, knowing that it's right, Under your gaze I ponder this love 2night. Unbothered by the chaos swirling 'round outside, In your arms is where I want 2 live and die." And for the couple, it was a true reflection of their marriage vows.

Seeing the couple on the dance floor, none of the guests would have guessed that right before their first dance, Anita and Shomik were scared, excited and overwhelmed. Magically, as they took to the dance floor for the first time as husband and wife, they were remarkably calm. As Shomik affectionately recalls, "Despite 400 pairs of eyes on us, it seemed the universe, for a brief moment, existed entirely for us. More than the emotional excitement, we were pleasantly surprised to realize how calm we both were. At that moment, we could rest. Almost two years of planning and the song was the first time we actually had a chance to rest, to talk, and to become reacquainted. We danced, talked, and conversed with youthful exuberance and reckless abandon." For the happy couple, it became a well-earned moment of intimacy where they could reconnect and celebrate.

After over a year of marriage, their first dance song continues to hold a special place for the couple. They can enjoy a flash of nostalgia for a day they both hold very close to their hearts whenever they play "Soul Sanctuary".

On choosing a first dance song, Shomik's advise is: "Try to find a song that isn't a wedding anthem, find one that is reasonably short and insist to the DJ that your choice is final. If the DJ doesn't have the song, supply a copy. Also, make sure the moment is captured properly. The videographer should have the whole first dance on video with the song audio prevalent. Ask the photographer to take pictures from varying angles and if possible, in both color and black & white. Some of the best wedding pictures come from the first dance."